Get Naked with Strangers

You’re finally ready to Get Naked with Strangers

OK budding porn stars that’s not what I’m talking about. Getting honest out in the world is the best way for you to find communities that fit. Like-minded people are out there and the only way to find them is being honest about who you are.

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You might have a very small circle of close friends, who are great, but you have history in common more than anything else. That leaves you thirsting to find people who share OTHER interests with you.  Maybe you’re looking to explore something new and different in your life and there just aren’t people in your circle who get it. You’re sexuality could certainly be one of those. That’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with having relationships with several groups of people who can relate to the various aspects of yourself. Having new, like-minded,  people in your life will also make it way easier to to open up to your existing friends because you won’t need them to totally get it.

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By the way, I’m not just talking about queer men here. Why would you limit yourself to starting relationships only within the gay community? Let’s face it, most of the world is straight. Even if we use Kinsey as a benchmark you’re looking at 90% of the world not being queer. That is a whole lot of people you’ll be cutting yourself off from if you assume that being gay is the primary feature of your personality. If you also limit yourself to men then there  aren’t that many people left who might be into, ancient near eastern literature, are there?

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For you out guys, you know what I’m talking about. Every time you use the word “breeder” you are being hetero-phobic. It’s natural for us to be suspicious of the people we see as the oppressor. But, isn’t it also important for us to learn from our oppression? Being gay or bi doesn’t make it OK for you to be a racist, misogynist or bigot of any kind. Haters are haters and we all need less of them in our lives. Learn from your experiences and decide not to allow prejudice to cloud your judgment and cut you off from other people.

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Let’s take off the rainbow coloured glasses for a minute. The gay community has its own set of not so helpful standards. There are a whole bunch of identifiable groups, twinks, bears, gym rats, circuit boys, drag queens …. the list goes on, and on. The interesting thing is that many of these groups utterly despise each other. We’ve taken the disdain that the world at large has for us and turned it on ourselves.

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Look, I’m not saying in order to be a good person that you need to want to date every man you meet. Who you like, is who you like. But, how about we actually embrace diversity and all the amazing human beings that are part of our community. That’s what this movement is all about. Really appreciating how amazing we are, and how much we can bring to the world, if we do it together.

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There’s also a whole lot of good in our community too. When we stop judging each other, and come together, we have proven that we are a powerful force for change. Its time for every one of us to stand up for the rights of all disenfranchised people, including transgendered people who face daily discrimination even within our community.

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For you personally, getting naked with strangers is finding the places that you fit. People from any walk of life who share your interests and passions. Who can understand parts of you that your gay friends might not. You, in turn, add a unique voice to that community. You can have a positive impact by helping them be more tolerant of the brilliant spectrum of human diversity.

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My most important Secret to getting you naked with strangers? It’s actually easier. Think about it for a minute. It may be scary because you figure someone you don’t know has no reason not to dislike you. That may be true. But, you also have way less reason to care. In my experience when I’ve joined a group based on a passionate interest, shown up as me, not advertising my orientation but doing nothing to hide it either, people have focused on our common interests more than my sexuality. This may not always be the case but what have you lost if you reach out and discover that one of your local vintage car clubs isn’t the most welcoming place for you? Nothing, and if you refuse to tolerate their intolerance you’ve just become empowered to be more unapologetically yourself. 

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A number of years ago I approached what has become my spiritual community with some trepidation. They talked a lot about tolerance and equality, but, it is an African based tradition with strong ties to the Caribbean. Arguably among the most homophobic areas of the planet. I decided that I would assume that they were being honest and that I would discover an environment where I could learn and grow comfortably. Since then I have become a respected senior member of the community. On many occasions I’ve needed to encourage straight men to relax and stop being so worried about making innocent faux pas based on a lack of experience with gay people. I treasure the deep friendships I have formed within the community particularly those with straight men who were taught to shun me. Shared passion can do a lot to bridge differences between people.

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So ask yourself, what parts of you don’t quite fit into your current circle? Don’t you deserve to explore the full extent of your interests? Isn’t it possible that you could find a great group of people that you can connect with so you don’t feel so alone.? What’s stopping you? If you’re just stuck because you don’t know where to go next then please GET SOME HELP.

 

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