Get Naked with YOURSELF

Get Naked with Yourself

 

The first area of your life where you have to get more naked is with yourself. Now, before you get too excited, this kind of getting naked with yourself doesn’t involve lube, poppers, or porn. It’s about getting more HONEST with yourself. You have to get more naked with YOURSELF, before you can EVER get truly naked with someone ELSE.

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The problem is, many of the gay men I talk to feel like they’re out of touch with themselves. It’s like they play so many roles in their lives that they’ve lost track of  who they really are. That makes it almost impossible for them to  be honest with themselves, or anyone else, about who that person inside is, or ever be truly comfortable in their own skin?

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On some level you’re doing this too. Listen, I’m not judging you, because, it isn’t your fault. As the so called “invisible minority” we’ve all learned to hold back, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Just so you know, I’m probably the best, or maybe worst, example of this. At one point in my life, I hid just about everything that made me powerful because I was in a relationship with an abusive man. Out of fear I let go of most of my friends. I gave up yoga and other things that helped me deal with life more positively. I even grew a moustache and adopted that eighties “clone” look. You probably know the one. Think Village People construction worker.  Yep, I completely lost myself, many of my most important relationships fell apart. And I lost my support system too, inner and outer. I was depressed, desperate, and alone.

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During that time I looked in the mirror and didn’t know WHO I was looking at. With the help of my one remaining friend, however, I saw what was going on… and changed it. I ended that bad relationship and moved to another city to be safe. Then I vowed NEVER to bury my real self for anyone, or any thing, ever again. And that’s exactly what I want you to do.

Fuck ’em if they can’t handle it.

It’s you baby, and you were born this way.

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Getting naked with yourself, is a daily process. So you have to be okay with the fact that it’s a life long journey. It’s also an exciting, fun, and fulfilling way to grow into the best person you can be and get the things you really want out of life.

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To understand why you’re feeling out of touch,  let’s ask you a few questions:

What has society told you about who you are? Some of us believe that we are inherently flawed, or even evil. Some of us, like I used to, believe that we can never be strong, or athletic. Maybe you feel too soft or feminine, or maybe, you feel that you’re too overtly masculine to fit in with gay society.

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What have other people told you? I’m sure not everything they’ve told you is negative. But, even some of the positive stuff can be limiting. For instance you might be a super  creative person, whose always dreamed of being and artist but you grew up in a family where you were pushed into sciences. Even if you had the aptitude, the sciences might not be your true passion.

Maybe you were told you’ll never amount to anything, or that you’ll never be happy if you choose the “gay lifestyle”.

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Who are you, really? Remember what you loved when you were a kid. Think about what you thought you’d be when you grew up. How about during high school? Then there’s the courses you chose as electives in college, or university, they can point to your hidden passions too.

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And who do you want to be… if you could be absolutely anyone? I’m not saying you  have to traipse across the stage in a pair of Manolo’s…. unless you want to. Just remember that you are unique, amazing, and fabulous… just the way you REALLY are.

 

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